Saturday, January 21, 2012

Superstition Vs Choice of Partner


What does superstition do with choices of partner? In European countries, this might not apply, but in Asian countries, particularly, in Chinese tradition, matching of couples inevitably has to deal with superstitions.

In old Chinese tradition, parents are the one who decides on whom their kid should marry with or get married to. When parents from both sides agree to each other, they will find a master to review the birthdates of the children to see if they are a good match, if they live happily ever after and prosperously, and if they will bring good luck and fortune to the whole generation. He will come up with the ideas that a RABBIT should go with a PIG and should never with a COW, and a DRAGON will bring bad luck to a DOG if they form a family. This belief is still working in modern Chinese families, locally and abroad. A book about this kind of fortune-telling is yearly published and people buy it and learn about their luck and how to keep themselves safe.

I believe that a similar superstition is also widespread in Cambodian society because people here also seek some masters for calculating and reviewing the birthdates for marriage. Some in-loved couples just have to break up unwantedly because of the words of a fortune-teller.

This practice is no good at all. I don’t believe in superstitions and any traditional belief, and I don’t want superstitions to interfere my decision of choosing a partner. It’s arguably true that I am originated from a Chinese family and my parents might somehow be affected by superstition in my choice of partner. What if I choose a Cambodian man? I guess we would have to look at both Chinese and Cambodian traditions and superstitions. That’ll be of great complexity and difficulty to find a good match. However, as long as I love someone, I don’t think I will consider about this matter.

Bad things will just come as long as we expect it to be. Why not expect good things? Think and act positively. Please do not let superstitions destine you while your own destiny should be in your own hand.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

It's new generation. Everything depends on reality, but it doesn't mean we have to ignore everything. God bless you. :)

Jocelyn said...

yes, u are right. However, superstition will not affect my decision, no matter of what.