Thursday, July 23, 2009

'I MISS YOU' ?


Once my friend asked me if ‘I miss you’ can be used for someone who does not have intimate relationship with us, i.e. besides the relationship of girlfriend and boyfriend, husband and wife.

At that time, my immediate respond was ‘yes’. I believe that I can say ‘I miss you’ to my parents, my siblings, my friends, and anyone who we do miss. There should be no restriction in using it. However, when considering more deeply, can a friend say ‘I miss you’ to an opposite sex when he/she doesn’t mean to have a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship?

Most of the times, ‘I miss you’ is concurrently used with ‘I love you’ when speaking or writing to a lover. When a boy/girl who just has a simple relationship with the one to whom the phrase is used, does it imply his/her love for the person or can it mean just a simple ‘I miss you’?

I’ve searched on the internet and looked up in dictionaries. ‘Miss’ means feeling regret at the absence of loss of sb/sth or feeling of lacking of sb. From this definition, it seems that the person we miss is very important to us. If we don’t have any biological relationship, the person must be the one we really care about and are worried of all the time. So, it’s natural that one is confused when seeing or hearing someone writes or says these words to him/her.

I often use ‘I miss you’ to my friend regardless of boy or girl. I hope there hasn’t been any misunderstanding of what I really mean. From my own view, I want to use ‘I miss you’ for everyone that I do miss, no matter who the person is.
And you?

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